Success or failure of offline living
We, the old school gaffers, learnt it so well – the rules of successful communication. Dale Carnegie and Richard Bandler were smiling at us from our bookshelves.
Dress well, smile, shake hands, listen then speak, don’t rush etc etc All the very preconditioned ways how we all tried to influence people and put ourselves into the favourable spotlight. All those American books on NLP, Success and How not to be a loser. Ah.. now we can see how we agreed to bullshit each other so we feel that we belong there where shiney bright smiles always win. It’s only business, baby… bang! shot in the head, stories of American success..
But what now you say, all the social media, instant virtualization and self-branding..? Do I need to extend all scheming and go from being double-faced to “triple-faced”? Create even more fake persona on facebook?
The reality is that you don’t need offices, conference and meeting rooms anymore, you can sit on your jack holding laptop in one hand and leading a conference call with people from North Pole, you can eat mango from the tree and lead international business in the same time living on paradise isle somewhere off Kerry or in Vietnam getting paid by bitcoins – another illusion, another American dream?
Why won’t we stop for a second and see what we got right here in 2013.
We got it all: everyone socializes more with their smart phones, we don’t meet and look at each other directly – we google and facebook meanwhile sitting in the basement like all IT Crowd crew. We like people when they click like on our like. We re-tweet our flatmates’ rants and instagram our grannies tea parties for a laugh. Yes, we’re already on Mars and broke atoms into gazillion of new particles but all we do – silly things like clicking on pictures and talking with our thumbs. Most of the time with very serious expressions on our faces just in case someone will put us on youtube.
We become enslaved by our communication devices, not by scary sci-fi terminators but lovely and cute fruit-phones. Now we need therapy of detoxing from the online. Turning off your laptop and mobile for a weekend or even a week won’t kill you and most likely you won’t miss any major world events in the news highlights like “Baby murderer eats Breivik’s nose off” or “Radical protester reveals Obama’s secret identity as Batman”.
You might learn your girlfriends landline number at last and… your own too! You might bask in the green fields or silky sand beaches instead reposting them on Pinterest. You might go out in the country pub where is no coverage and have a lovely chat with an old friend. Or meet for a cup of coffee with your business partner in the park and play frisbee. You might listen to a newest mix from the DJ Ocean featuring the sounds of waves, seagulls cry and slow beats of your bare feet on wet sand.
And all you need is to be yourself, open, honest and curious about the others and the things they do. And they will do the same by the law of being human. And work for each other to make things better and not for margins, targets and profits.
And now Dalai Lama and Tim Ferris smile at us from our kindle bookshelves.